Attn: Trans* Folks!

peacepunx:

I’m writing a piece on trans* discrimination and I’m looking for some interested people to help out! I’ve worked extensively on issues of trans* healthcare which is one big mess of discrimination in itself but I was super interested in hearing from some people who are dealing with this directly (not just healthcare discrimination, all areas and all types). If you’re comfortable discussing any discrimination you’ve experienced with me that would be incredible and I’d appreciate it greatly. Of course your privacy and comfort level come first so all disclosure is up to you and anything that I write on your comments would not have your name attached.

If anyone would like to signal boost this too that’d be excellent! An added bonus if you’re trans* and living/have lived in Boston!

Anonymous asked: The whole topic of societal pressures on young virgin males(early20's) who aren't saving it for marriage to lose their virginity. With chivalry sadly not as strong as it should be today's modern young male finds himself in an awkward spot. Namely between lacking the confidence to fully "sell the idea of oneself" to another sexually, and the fact that society's ridicule isn't lifted or confidence given until he has had sex. Sorry if thats too rambly. does the inexperience really matter?

I’m trying to get this straight. Are you asking if inexperience matters when one has intercourse for the first time? As to the comment about “selling the idea of oneself”…. you’re not a commodity. You don’t have to “sell yourself” or the idea of you to anyone. In any case, please elaborate on this?

Anonymous asked: tw: sexual assault: i eventually did cut those two "friends" out of my life but now i'm worried that my psyche has been damaged, and that i am finding my kinks now in the ashes of the abuse i suffered. i feel very wrong about it even though i know that if i consented to sleep play beforehand in my present relationship, it would be okay. i'm feeling the urge to repress this kink all together.

So this is pretty complicated. I recommend trying to talk to someone about your experience… like you said, you’re worried your “psyche has been damaged.” In addition, consent always comes first and if you and your partner choose to extensively discuss exploring this kink, then make sure consent is clear. Honestly, I’m very unfamiliar with this type of situation, if anyone has something to add please do!

Hi! I’m Beyza, a 21-year-old woman from Turkey. I’m suffering from vaginismus. I realized this two years ago. I tried to have intercourse for a year (just a few times), but my vagina wouldn’t take more than one or two fingers. I don’t know how, but I made it a year ago. I had intercourse a few times, but there was still pain. Then my partner changed, and I wasn’t able to do it again with the new partner.
I know there is a very simple and successful treatment for this. Also I have a very religious family and I have to keep it as a secret. I’m a student, I don’t make my own money. There aren’t many therapists here and it’s too expensive for me. One of my closest friends lent me some money and I went to a therapist who assaulted me sexually later.
So I’m still suffering it. Actually, I’ve had the most pleasurable sex without intercourse. However; it’s sad to see disappointed faces and to miss the feeling of a penis inside. I just wanted to share my story. Thank you for listening to me :)

Anonymous asked: Hello, I'm a male college student and I have a hard time keeping my masturbarion secessions longer. Like, when I masturbate I cum to fast and I never last long. The start and stop method is too hard for me to be honest. Is the desentisizing cream for males any good when it comes to this? Any tips or anything? Thank you!!!

Try simply using a condom when you masturbate before jumping to the chemical creams. If you have tried this to no avail, check out some of these products. I have never tried them because I have a vagina and I also don’t know of anyone who has but please research the products and reference the reviews. http://www.edenfantasys.com/sex-toys-for-men/desinsetizing-creams/

ilanazoe94 asked: CtrlAltSex is a a uniquely South African sex positive movement and a thought leader in creative sex education solutions. They subscribe to a health, pleasure, and social justice paradigm, ultimately advocating critical thinking for yourself. The company has recently created a tumblr accound and we were wondering if you were willing to promote us on your blog? Many thanks! ctrlaltsex(.)tumblr(.)com

Anonymous asked: tw: sexual assault; hello, i'm an 18 year old female and i'm having trouble with a newly discovered kink. i like somnophilia, which is sleep play. the trouble here is, even when i understand that consent comes first, i still feel guilty about getting off to somnophilia. when i was younger, i was sexually assaulted by two different men while i was asleep - or pretended to be, to avoid confrontation. i was simply embarassed/scared, and felt betrayed.. con't*

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